Alone time

There is one thing that I have noticed that my son craves from time to time. It is alone time with each parent individually. The hubby is a big family man and insists that everything be done as a family. If you should even suggest different he fights it tooth and nail.

Several years ago I noticed that Cal would request to spend time with me alone. The hubby had a hard time getting used to that (and still does). He still acts hurt if Cal should suggest to do something with just him and I.

I love these alone times. I have started craving them just as much as Cal. Starting next week Cal and I will start having some alone time each day, I feel bad for the hubby but it is just the way that it is working out. Today I suggested that hubby and Cal use the rest of the week (taking Cal to school) for their time. Now I get worried about their time together because the hubby usually takes this time to do something that he knows I am against.

For example the last time, I had told Cal that we didn't have the extra money to purchase a CD. Cal understood and I explained to both of them that we had many other more important things to worry about. The very next day the hubby took Cal and bought a CD. I was so mad I didn't talk to either of them for an entire day. I was upset that hubby would do that (but he has done it numerous times before) and I was upset that he is teaching Cal to behave that way.

Now when we behave like that God usually has something to say about it. The day after they bought the CD it was scratched (really bad) when it was inserted into the Jeep CD player. The player "sucks" the CD's in and when it did it scratched it the entire length. So they wasted $20.00.

Oh and by the way I looked up the CD online and I could have bought it for $12.99 at CBD with a little extra for shipping. I know that I really have to get over this and move on but it is not the first time. The hubby thinks he has to do these things in order to be the "favorite" parent. The thing he refuses to see is that Cal does not respect him because of this type of behavior.

The hubby is BIG on throwing the RESPECT word around.

I know that these alone times are numbered, Cal is getting older and it won't be long before he doesn't want to spend any time with us. I am holding on to these moments for dear life.

Soon enough life will be about cars, friends, acne treatments, and girls. Spending alone time with is parents won't even make the list.

Cal is very sheltered and at times I get a little worried because he is a little immature for his age. I see this more than his father, and I will remind him of his age quite often. The hubby would keep him at this age forever. Me, I am looking forward to the teenage years and a little more independence, but I hope that he still requires the alone time because I know that I will.