Last night at church the pastor made a very good point. We sit around and criticize ourselves, we hate our hair, weight, looks, clothes, and anything else we think about. BUT... let someone else say those same exact things about us and we go ballistic.
That made me think of my son. I am constantly saying how fat I am. My butt is huge and I like to point these things out to people, just in case they don't have eyes of their own. The other day I said "I need cream for my legs" the son responded with "you need to loose weight". I became very upset and he got in big trouble...... and he should have. I am not defending him just saying that he hears these things from me.
This morning CAL put on a pair of pants that we bought just a few months ago. When we bought them they were huge. I pointed out to CAL that they were not so huge now. I said that he has to watch his weight more. Life is so hard when you have a weight problem at 12. His vacation is coming up and I told him that he was going to ride his bike everyday. He looked at me and said "can I say something without getting in trouble...... Mom you really need to loose some weight, I am not trying to be mean but it is starting to scare me how heavy you are getting". What do you say to that.
I have never tried weight loss products, I have always just cut back on eating and tried to exercise more. The time has come, I am starting to worry my son. I have always said that I would loose weight when I could no longer play basketball, baseball, and kickball with my son. That time is here.
4 comments:
It is pretty sobering when your own kid points such things out because he fears for your health. But it must be nice to hear from time to time that he really cares that much. Not many kids his age would express that these days.
I'm working on losing weight too and it is hard. You have family, work, school (in my case, and somewhere in there you try to fit in eating right and exercising.
I will say this, while weight loss products can work, the best way (as you know) eat right and exercise.
I found this on one of my favorite blogs, Atomic Nerds, you and your son could give it a try together. I like it and it doesn't require a gym, just a doorway pull-up bar.
http://www.simplefit.org/bodyweight-exercises.html
Good luck to you.
instinct: Thanks for the link. I think we are going to work as a team. We might even blog about our progress.
Dave: There are times when my son is very caring and sensitive, then other times when he just seems so mean and nasty. Thankfully the mean and nasty seem to be less frequently than before.
try to find a local group to get involved with. Running, roller blading, skiing. It's easier if you have accountability people.
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