I am so angry with my son right now. I understand how Richmond feels. I just want to throw my hands in the air and say "go live somewhere else". As a matter of fact last night I did.
He becomes totally out of control over the smallest issues. Last night it was the fact that he (our team) was losing at football. He started crying and being ridiculous so we ended the game. It just spiraled out of control from there.
I asked him to go get drinks for dinner. He willingly did but neglected to get a drink for me. His dad told him you forgot Mom and he said "oh I'm sorry", so I said it was no big deal just eat. Then he admitted that he didn't forget that that was "my punishment" for whatever it was he felt I did wrong. So I promptly reached over and removed his dinner plate from the table. He went berserk.
The rest of the night was just a blur. All I know is that in an attempt to put him in his room the little monster punched me in the head. You have no idea how badly I wanted to call the police and have him taken away "to live somewhere else".
Of course, everything is our (my husband and myself) fault. We obviously have not done a good job at being parents. We have allowed him to feel like he is an equal (he feels he has the right to issues punishments).
His trip to TN is on the line. I don't know what to do at this point. Frankly I need a weekend without him.
He has been very bad like this for several months. I removed him from his allergy medicine, took care of a situation at school (he was being severely bullied - which I think has a lot to do with our situation - he needs to control something), I have tried everything I can think of.
My husband and I have talked about counseling. He is so against it. I understand how he feels. I personally think the counselor is only going to look at us, tell us where we are wrong, because you know how society thinks: If I child is a monster the parents HAVE to be doing something wrong. I will admit at school I think the same way about kids/parents.
Speaking of school, he is basically an angel at school. Well at least in the classroom. On the playground he is a boy that has gotten into his fair share of trouble. As I mentioned before (which is a different post) he has been bullied at school for sometime. I thought I took the appropriate steps but found out that I had not. The reason he is bullied is his own fault some of the time. He gets upset very quickly and so some of the kids love to push his buttons. He is very easy to cry, throw punches, and get out of control.
I will ask that WB and Jason PLEASE not discuss this matter with their father. If my husband knows that I blogged about this he will have a fit but.... Frankly I consider you my friends and I just needed to talk to someone about this.
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Five years ago I lived across the street from a very scary boy. He hit his mother, tortured the dog and went after his sister with a butcher knife. This kid was about 12 and had been this way for quite some time. His parents seemed like nice, decent folks who just had no answers. I felt sorry for them!
One day he tore down a door at the house with an axe and his mom threatened to spank him. Brave woman! He said 'if you do I'll call the cops on you'. He knew that there was a zero-tolerance policy in Volusia county.
So his mom bent down, touched the belt and he ran to the phone and dialed 911. The cops were there in minutes and she was arrested.
Now, I think someone needed to pound the ever loving snot out of that child.
Your boy doesn't sound like the demon seed, just a hormonal kid going through the normal stuff.
I hope it gets better for you guys, but keep in mind that it could be much worse...
OH, and the little demon did go away for a short period and then ended right back up at the house. After all, his parents were responsible for him, and they couldn't afford a stay at a 'facility' somewhere.
Don't discount the counselor if it's a real psychologist and not just a school counselor. I don't care if he's against it or not; if you guys take him he'll open up to someone, it sounds like he really needs to.
Pamibe, I will write more about this later. Just wanted to make one note: It is his father that is against the counseling.
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